Dear Queenie,
I would like to have a boyfriend, but I am not the least bit interested in anyone from St. Maarten. These guys are just plain rude, selfish, only for the sex, and not at all educated about love or manners in love.
I hate it when guys call out to me on the street, acting like horny dogs … well, that’s an insult to the dogs. I hate the way they whistle when I pass, the way they look at every female in their area, the way they “pssssst” when you pass, all of it. I also don’t believe in long-distance relationships.
Queenie, what can I do now? Am I being too picky?—Confused
Dear Confused,
I don’t think you are being too picky. You are just looking for a boyfriend in the wrong places.
The kind of man you want won’t be hanging around a street corner or a bar. He will be working at a professional job or furthering his education, or both. He will be a member of a service club, a church and/or some other community group.
He may very well be already spoken for. The good ones usually are. And in that case he is off limits for you, but of course if he is everything you are looking for and he is taken, he won’t be interested in you.
Nevertheless, don’t stop looking. Just be more picky about where you look.
You might also give some thought to the way you dress and carry yourself, if you attract so much attention from the kind of men you describe. The man you are looking for is also picky.
