Dear Queenie,
I found out my boyfriend has been making passes at my mother. You understand, he's my age, not an older man.
I tried to talk to him about it because it's making all of us uncomfortable. He claims he's in love with me and only me, but he still hugs her all the time and asks her out, and once he even tried to kiss her and it wasn't like a son or son-in-law.
Queenie, how can I make him stop without losing him?—Feeling weird
Dear Feeling weird,
I can't help wondering if this crazy letter is for real, or a figment of the imagination(s) of a (bunch of) adolescent(s) who are trying to take me for the proverbial ride.
Assuming for the sake of argument that your letter is on the up-and-up, I have a better question for you: why do you want to keep this jerk? He has already given you a sample of what you can expect from him if you stay together: he will cheat on you every chance he gets, even with your own mother if she would let him.
As for stopping him, dump him. And if that doesn't do the trick, it's up to your mother – perhaps with your father's help – to set this creep straight and send him on his way. And if they can't manage to do the job, file a complaint of harassment with the police and let them take care of the problem.
