Dear Queenie,
My wife’s brother and his wife never host family get-togethers. They have a nice house and plenty of room, so they could do it, but they don’t. It’s always up to us or their parents.
Queenie, am I expecting too much of them?—Fed-up brother-in-law
Dear Brother-in-law,
You are right, your brother-in-law and his wife should do their share of entertaining family, but it is not going to happen, so you will have to decide what events you will host and leave the rest up to your in-laws.
When you host an event you could ask your brother-in-law and his wife to help out by bringing some food and/or pitching in at your house, but that is as much as you can expect (if even that!).
