Dear Queenie,
I have a grown-up daughter who still lives with me. When she needs something I take care of it, but she never does anything to help me out. She doesn’t even keep her own room clean and I had to hire someone to clean it out.
Now I am sick and need help, but she just got mad at me and refused.
Queenie, I’m too old for all this. What can I do?—Fed-up mother
Dear Mother,
If your daughter is able to get a job and live on her own, give her a deadline for moving out, or at least insist that she start paying you rent. And do not clean her room for her. Just shut the door so you do not have to see the mess and leave the cleaning up to her.
