Dear Queenie,
My sister is vexed with me because I didn’t have a wedding shower for her when she got married or a baby shower now that she is expecting.
I didn’t do it because I always understood that is not right for family members to do this.
Queenie, was I wrong?—Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
You were quite right. According to the rules of etiquette, it is not proper for family members to host such events.
It would have been correct for her other bridesmaids (I assume you were in the wedding party) and/ or friends to have thrown showers for her, in which case you could have joined in,
The next time you have occasion to give your sister a gift, give her a book on etiquette with a bookmark indicating the section on wedding and baby showers.
