Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I are very much in love and we plan to get married, but not for a while yet, so we want to live together until then, also to be sure we are really ready for marriage.
My mother has always said this is a good idea, to be sure a couple is compatible but now she is having a fit about it. It seems this is okay for others, but not for her own daughter.
I say I’m a grown woman and she can’t expect to keep running my life as if I was still a child, but she keeps worrying about what people will say and what she could say to them.
Queenie, what do you say?—Disgusted daughter
Dear Daughter,
I agree with you.
As for what your mother can say to judgemental people, she can tell them just what you said: “My daughter is a grown woman and I can’t run her life as though she were still a child.”
