Dear Queenie,

  The women I date tell me they feel safe with me because they know I won’t force them to do anything they don’t want to do.

  Queenie, what are they really trying to say?—Confused

Dear Confused,

  They may be trying to pay you a compliment, or they may be trying to tell you their interest in you is only as a friend – or some of them may have dated men who tried to force them into doing things they did not want to do.

  Ask some of your female relatives and/or married women who are your friends what they think makes your dates react to you like this. Their answers should be interesting.