Dear Queenie,
A couple of years ago I was in a relationship with this guy and we never really forgot each other. We recently started talking again and things between us seem to go well but we’re having a little difficulty with seeing each other because we’re both always working.
On the other hand I’m attracted to a church boy. I feel attracted to this guy because of his sincere compassion in serving Christ and we had a little thing going on, but suddenly stopped. We always see each other and get along really well.
My problem is that I’m not sure which one I’d rather settle for. I love my ex and I’m honestly really attracted to the church guy.
Queenie, what would you advise me to do?—Can’t decide
Dear Can’t decide,
“Settling for” a partner in a relationship is hardly a good way to choose. How would you like it if you thought one of these guys was “settling for” you?
Why do you have to have an exclusive relationship with either one of them? Why not continue to see both of them – on the clear understanding that you are not making any exclusive commitment to either one of them – until you are more certain of your feelings for each of them, or until one of them makes the decision for you by deciding that you are not the one for him.
