Dear Queenie,
My husband and I have been married for about 7 years and we have a daughter who is 4 years old.
This is my second marriage. I divorced my first husband because he was abusive. We didn’t have any children and we have had no contact since the divorce. Both my husband’s family and mine and all our friends know about my first marriage but we don’t talk about it or about my ex.
Queenie, should I tell my daughter about my first husband and if so, when is a good time?—Ambivalent
Dear Ambivalent,
I believe in letting sleeping dogs lie.
If your daughter ever learns about your first marriage and asks about it, give her brief age-appropriate answers. If she does not bring it up, you need not mention it.
