Dear Queenie,
I have a certain mental disorder that doesn’t stop me from getting along in life but does make it more difficult. I’m getting treated for it but it does make life more difficult.
Queenie, when should I tell someone I’m dating that I have a mental health problem?—Not crazy
Dear Not crazy,
Any kind of health information is personal and can be kept confidential until the other person has a good reason to know about it. When you reach that point, you should tell them about the disorder and about the treatment you are receiving.
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend never pays me any kind of compliment about how I look. If I ask him how he likes it he just says it’s okay.
Queenie, I wish he would tell me if he likes or doesn’t like something about my makeup or my clothes or whatever.—Trying to please him
Dear Trying,
Have you told him how you feel about this? If not, do so. If you have told him, tell him again and say that you really would appreciate his response, even if it is not positive.
Dear Queenie,
I own a small business and now that things are picking up again I am looking to hire a helper or two. I have advertised the positions and interviewed some people and even though I described the jobs in my “help wanted” ads, almost all of the people who applied didn’t know anything at all about my business.
Queenie, please tell your readers that they should know at least a little bit about the job they are applying for and the company they want to work for.—Disgusted would-be employer
Dear Disgusted,
Any job-seeker should know something about the place they want to work for and the job they are applying for, and should be prepared to tell their interviewer how they can be an asset to their (would-be) employer. The information should be easy to find – almost every business has a website or some presence on the Internet these days if only to advertise itself to potential customers.
Dear Queenie,
While my sister was visiting I went to get something out of my purse and she kept saying she liked it so much she thought she would steal it. Then when she was leaving she gave me $10 (I had said I bought the purse at a charity sale for less than that) and dumped out my purse and took it with her. I didn’t know what to say.
Queenie, I really liked that purse. Is there any way I can get it back?—Offended
Dear Offended,
The next time you visit your sister, tell her how much you liked that purse, give her her money back and ask her for the purse – and hope she complies, but do not count on it.
Dear Queenie,
After I graduated from college I got a good job working for a company where I am now managing my department.
I still live with my parents but I have saved up enough money that now I can afford to get a place of my own and my father says he will help me look for one that he approves of and the way he talks I think he will be checking up on me there after I move in.
Queenie, if I am living in my own place and paying for it myself don’t I have a right to some privacy? How do I make my parents understand this?—All grown up now
Dear Grown up,
With all his experience, your father can be a big help to you in finding a good place to live. Once you move in, make sure he does not have keys to the place so he cannot drop in on you unexpectedly or while you are not at home – change the locks, if necessary. Then ask your parents to give you a call before they come to see you, to make sure you are at home and not too busy to entertain visitors.
