Dear Queenie,
A girl I dated many years ago had a baby after we broke up. I’m happily married now but I can’t help being curious and I’d like to know if the baby was my child.
Queenie, should I try to find out, and if so, how?—Just curious
Dear Just curious,
You can ask your former girlfriend whether you are the father of the child she had back then, bearing in mind that it is quite possible that you are not. But whatever the answer is, leave the child out of it unless you are invited to have contact.
Dear Queenie,
I think maybe one of my neighbors is dealing drugs. A lot of young people come for just a few minutes and we have found hypodermic needles in the street.
I’m afraid to call the police because the neighbor might find out and try to get back at me.
Queenie, what do you suggest?—Worried neighbor
Dear Worried neighbor,
I’m sure your local police have an anonymous tip line. When you call such a line they won’t ask you for personal information – that is why it is called “anonymous”.
Dear Queenie,
I have tattoos of flowers on my arms that I think are beautiful, but sometimes people, even relatives, will talk about how they don’t like tattoos and think they make your body ugly.
Queenie, what’s a good way to answer them and tell them how they hurt my feelings?—Flower girl
Dear Flower girl,
Just tell them that you think they are beautiful and that is what matters. And if they keep repeating their comments, repeat your reply and ask them to stop being so insulting.
Dear Queenie,
My husband left me to be with his byside and now I don’t have to deal with all his problems – drinking too much, smoking pot, bad temper, supporting him when he loses his job, and taking care of him when he has health problems. And just like he cheated on me he will cheat on her, if he can.
Queenie, please publish this letter so I can tell her “thank you”.—The Ex-wife
Dear Ex-wife,
Here is your letter. I hope any women who are thinking of getting involved with a man who is already otherwise attached will learn from your experience.
Dear Queenie,
My husband’s first wife died long before we met. Their son is married to a woman who is the problem I want your advice about. She is very fat and her clothes are too tight, so she bulges out of them and you can see a lot more of her than she should be showing, but she claims it is the style nowadays.
Queenie, should I say something to her about this?—Offended step-mother-in-law
Dear Step-mother-in-law,
No, that is up to the girl’s parents and you should stay out of it. If you want to take her to a place that has a dress code you should tell her what that code is before you take her there, but otherwise do not say anything.
