A girl I dated many years ago had a baby after we broke up. I’m happily married now but I can’t help being curious and I’d like to know if the baby was my child.
Queenie, should I try to find out, and if so, how?—Just curious
Dear Just curious,
You can ask your former girlfriend whether you are the father of the child she had back then, bearing in mind that it is quite possible that you are not. But whatever the answer is, leave the child out of it unless you are invited to have contact.