

Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been living together for a couple of years and every time we visit his parents they ask me when I’m going to start giving them grandchildren. One time I told them it wouldn’t be until after we got married and now they ask when we’re going to get married and start giving them grandchildren.
Queenie, what’s a good answer to shut them up?—Don’t want kids
Dear Don’t want kids,
I doubt you will ever be able to shut them up on this subject. Just smile and tell them that when you are ready they will be the first ones you will tell, and then change the subject.
Dear Queenie,
Recently I had an argument with a friend who said it was not right for me to let my husband take care of me and not go out and get a job and work like he does.
Queenie, he works all day at his job and I work all day taking care of the children and keeping the house clean and doing laundry and shopping for groceries and cooking and all like that.
What is a good answer I could have given her?—Happy housewife
Dear Housewife,
You could have told her just what you told me.
However, your friend may have been concerned because she thought you might not be prepared to cope financially if anything happens to your husband or if he loses his job.
Are you prepared for such a situation? If not, you should consider ways to prepare yourself, just in case. Consult a financial planner and, if necessary, find ways to continue your education.
You might also consider getting a part-time job one or two days (or evenings) a week to beef up your resumé just in case you ever need it. You might even find it interesting and enjoyable.
Dear Queenie,
I lived with a man for several years, but about a year ago he made some kind of excuse and left. It took me a while to get over him, but then I started dating again and met another man I love just as much as I loved the one before him.
I really do love him, but recently we had a big argument about some small matter and while we were on the outs my former lover got in touch with me and apologized and said he wanted us to get back together again.
I still have feelings for him, but my friends say not to give him a second chance.
Queenie, what do you say?—Pulled 2 ways
Dear Pulled,
Things probably will be great for a while if you go back to man #1, until you have another argument, and by that time man #2 probably will have found someone else.
Take some time to think carefully about what you want in a relationship before you make a commitment to anyone.
Dear Queenie,
I have a very strong body odor and even deodorants do not help much. I read somewhere that apple cider vinegar will stop the smell and also will keep mosquitoes from biting.
Queenie, is that true?—Smelly and itchy
Dear Queenie,
Things were wonderful in my marriage until I got pregnant. Since then we almost never have sex anymore. My husband said it was because he was afraid of hurting the baby, even though the doctor explained that that wasn’t a problem but it went on even after the baby was born. And all the romance has stopped also. No more surprise gifts, romantic notes, quick kiss and hug – nothing.
Queenie, I still love my husband but he acts as if he doesn’t care about me anymore What advice do you have for me?—Worried wife
Dear Wife,
Some men do not find pregnant women sexually attractive, but that is no longer an excuse for your husband’s (non)behaviour. However, some men also find “motherhood” sexually unattractive.
Whatever the reason, professional counselling may help resolve it if you can persuade your husband to go with you, but if he will not, go alone to get help learning how you want to deal with your situation, and how to do so.
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