Dear Queenie,

  I have a friend who is a non-stop talker. She goes on and on and on about whatever she is saying and you can’t get in a single word. Even when she asks you a question, she interrupts your answer and gives your answer for you and then doesn’t stop talking.

  I don’t want to try to talk to her about this because she gets her feelings hurt easily and I don’t want to spoil our friendship.

  Queenie, what do you suggest?—Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,

  Apparently your friend considers you more of an audience than a partner in conversation. Either get used to just sitting and listening to her, or limit your contacts with her to e-mails and voice and/or text messages.

Dear Queenie,

  My sister cheated on her husband and they got divorced and now she is living with the man she cheated with. Their son, who is an adult, is totally upset by all this and the rest of our family totally disapproves too.

  So, Queenie, what do we do when we have a family get-together? We won’t invite the ex-husband, but we don’t want to invite the new boyfriend either, so as not to upset her son, my nephew, and because we don’t approve of her relationship with him.—Disgusted brother

Dear Brother,

  I understand your feelings about this “other man”, but he is part of your sister’s life now, so I suggest you invite him to these get-togethers. It will be easier for your nephew to get used to having him around and to learn to at least be polite to him if he has his other relatives around supporting him and setting a good example.

Dear Queenie,

  My sister and her husband (her second husband) have a son in primary school and they let him get away with all sorts of things that they would never let her older son from her first marriage do.

  When they first got married her new husband treated the older boy as if he was his own, but things changed when the new baby came along.

  The older boy has noticed the difference in the way they are treating the younger one and he is angry about it and this shows in the way he has begun to behave.

  My sister and her husband say they treat him more strictly because they are afraid he will turn out to be like his father and the way he is behaving proves that they are right.

  Queenie, what can I do to help him?—Worried aunt

Dear Aunt,

  You can try explaining to your sister and her husband that if your older nephew turns out to be like his (apparently not so nice) biological father it will not be something passed on to him from his bio-dad, but because of the way they are treating him. However, they may not be willing to listen to you.

  Try to persuade them to get professional counselling for the boy, and/or family counselling for all of them. The parents might be willing to listen to a professional counsellor, and at least it would help your nephew learn to deal with the situation.

Dear Queenie,

  In my family, us children were raised to know that once we finished college we were expected to be able to support ourselves, and that is what we all have done. We have all done quite well and now in fact we are able to help out our parents when they need it.

  My fiancé is quite well-off, but some of his family are not and he is constantly helping them out with money.

  Queenie, it looks like it will always be this way. What should I do?—Worried fiancée  

Dear Fiancée,

  Once you marry, you and your husband-to-be should make financial decisions together. You need to sit down with him and discuss this matter, and if he will not do so now, he is not likely to do so after you are married. Pre-marital financial (and other) counselling might help.