Dear Queenie,
Things were wonderful in my marriage until I got pregnant. Since then we almost never have sex anymore. My husband said it was because he was afraid of hurting the baby, even though the doctor explained that that wasn’t a problem but it went on even after the baby was born. And all the romance has stopped also. No more surprise gifts, romantic notes, quick kiss and hug – nothing.
Queenie, I still love my husband but he acts as if he doesn’t care about me anymore What advice do you have for me?—Worried wife
Dear Wife,
Some men do not find pregnant women sexually attractive, but that is no longer an excuse for your husband’s (non)behaviour. However, some men also find “motherhood” sexually unattractive.
Whatever the reason, professional counselling may help resolve it if you can persuade your husband to go with you, but if he will not, go alone to get help learning how you want to deal with your situation, and how to do so.
