Dear Queenie,
My family are all worried about one of my sisters who is in a relationship with a guy we think isn’t good enough for her. He has only a high school education and can’t hold a job, so she basically supports him.
He isn’t abusive or anything like that, but he does drink too much and we worry when he drives her someplace when he’s been drinking.
Queenie, should we tell her what we think of him?—Worried brother
Dear Brother,
Some time when the family is all together (without your sister’s boyfriend), tell her what you think of him and why. Do not suggest that she break up with him, but let her know that you are there for her (but not for him) if she ever needs you.
Beyond that there is not much you can do. Some people just have to make their own mistakes and (hopefully) learn from them – if indeed this guy really is a mistake for your sister. He may have good qualities of which you are not aware.
