Dear Queenie,
My first wife and I got divorced many years ago and eventually she remarried, to a man much richer than I am. Now our daughter is getting married and they are planning a fancy expensive wedding, much more than I can afford.
Queenie, do I have to pay half the cost of this wedding even though I have no say in the wedding plans?—Wedding woes
Dear Wedding woes,
You have no obligation to pay anything toward your daughter’s wedding, especially if you have not been included in the planning thereof, unless such obligation is spelled out in your divorce agreement. However, it would be decent of you to contribute what you can afford. Figure out what that amount is and inform your ex and your daughter how much you will give them, and why only that much.
