Dear Queenie,
I think I’m in love with this guy I used to work with. He’s very friendly to me and very polite and considerate and he always helped me when I was at my job. But I never let him know how I felt because we worked together and it might cause friction in case it didn’t work out.
He used to give me rides home, and sometimes he would even just stop by from work if he worked late and I was finished already or on my day off, but he would never come inside.
But last month I got fired from my job and we haven’t had any contact since then and I really miss him.
Queenie, what should I do now?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
That depends. Do you know if he is married or otherwise “attached”? If he is, forget about him. A romance with a man who is already “spoken for” would just cause problems for both of you.
However, if he is available, you might try giving him a casual call “just to say hello.” His behaviour toward you may have been based on the same reasons you had for not letting him know how you feel, which no longer apply. If that is the case, you are both now free to take the next step. You will know what to think from his reaction to your call.
