Dear Queenie,

  My boyfriend and I have been going together for years, but up to now there is no commitment. Sometimes I stay overnight with him, but there is no talk about moving in together, let alone getting married. Things are great between us, but I want some kind of commitment and I can’t get it from him.

  Queenie, should I just try to find someone else?—Undecided


Dear Undecided,

  It seems clear that your boyfriend is not willing to make any commitment to you. You will have to decide whether you are willing to settle for what you have now, or want to give it up to try to find something more with someone else.