Dear Queenie,
I have a boyfriend. He is 18 years old, I’m 14. We love each other and we have sex on a regular basis with and without protection (I work very well in school). But he has another girlfriend.
She says they are just friends, but he tells me that’s his woman but they don’t have sex. She also has another man.
Girls from all over like my boyfriend and I don’t know why. He isn’t cute, that’s why I chose him. He tells me he loves me a lot, he gives me the world, and I love him too.
Queenie, I can’t continue with this 2-woman thing but I love him. My parents don’t know about me and him.—Too young for love
Dear Too young,
First, let me comment that you apparently don’t work as well in school as you think, considering the number of errors I had to correct before I could publish your letter. You would do better to concentrate on your schoolwork for a few years and forget about boyfriends of any age.
Second, you are very foolish, to say the least, to have unprotected sex with a man who is probably having sex with at least one other woman who in turn is having sex with at least one other man. He may say he is not having sex with her, but he refers to her as “his woman.” Just what do you think that phrase means? If he really loved you he wouldn’t be involved with another woman.
Your boyfriend may give you “the world,” whatever that means, but there is a very good chance he will also give you an STD, not to mention a baby. It’s a good thing for him that your parents don’t know about him or they would have him put in jail for “statutory rape,” which means having sex with a girl who is below the age of consent. I suggest you stop seeing this young man until you graduate from school. If you really love him you will do so to protect him from going to prison.
And if he really loves you, which I doubt, he will be willing to wait for you until you are grown up. That is, if you still want him when you are mature enough to have (I hope) better sense about choosing a boyfriend.
