Dear Queenie,
Recently my young adult daughter found herself in a predicament. After a falling out with a male friend, he decided to be vindictive. He organised a meeting between a clique of about six so-called friends and spilled everything that was said about them, turning everyone against her. He then filed a harassment complaint against her with the detectives. Not enough for him, he went to her boss and spilled the story to him. On social media she was referred to as Crazy, Disillusion, Liar and Psychotic.
Then this same young man visited my workplace claiming he was there to apologise. He said he was being dishonest about some things and would like to meet with my family to apologise. By the Grace of God in me, I have the surveillance tape with audio from my job, which I already requested, and I am thinking of sending it to her lawyer, the detectives, her boss and then the clique of friends. His actions caused severe emotional stress for her and myself.
Queenie, would that make me an unfair and unforgiving mother?—Too Considerate mother
Dear Too Considerate mother,
It might make you unforgiving, but not at all unfair.
As you describe it, this man’s behaviour was unforgivable. It may even have been punishable under the law. Your daughter’s lawyer can tell you what legal redress is available to you and the tape should be proof enough of his actions and behaviour.
