Dear Queenie,
I’m a man in my 40s engaged to a much younger woman and we’re busy planning our wedding. We agree on most things, but the wedding planning is causing problems. Every time I ask how much something s going to cost she gets upset. I know it’s a very special day for a woman, especially her first marriage, but we don’t have a money tree growing in our yard.
Queenie, am I out of line or is she being a bridezilla? And is this a sign of future problems?—Not made of money
Dear Not made of money,
You are not out of line and this could very well be an indication of future problems. Disagreements about financial management are one of the commonest causes of marital problems and divorce.
The two of you need to set a budget for your wedding (and for your future life together) and stay within it.
Apparently you and your bride-to-be would benefit from some serious financial counselling and perhaps a course in budget-planning.
