Dear Queenie,
I am divorced with 2 children and my ex isn’t very good about paying the child support, so I’ve been having a hard time and my parents have been helping out a lot.
The problem is my sister is vexed about the money they’ve been giving me. She and her husband don’t have any kids and they both have good jobs and live quite well.
Our parents have explained to her that it’s just a matter of need and to be sure their grandchildren are okay, but she still thinks they’re playing favorites.
Queenie, I don’t want to be the cause of a falling-out in the family. What more can I do?—Struggling to make ends meet
Dear Struggling,
To your sister it is not so much a matter of the money but, as you said, that it seems like your parents are playing favourites. Does she really understand your financial difficulties?
Perhaps your parents should reassure her that they will help her out also if she ever needs it, or if they can afford it your parents could also give her some money, even if she does not really need it. Or they could leave her a larger portion in their will. Whatever the final arrangement, you and your parents should try to explain things to your sister.
