Dear Queenie,
My wife is very ill and our friends call her often to ask how she is doing and what they can do to help. The thing is, this is all very hard for me too and no one ever bothers to ask how I am doing.
Queenie, don’t they care about me too?—Stressed out husband
Dear Stressed out,
People tend to focus on the obvious in such cases. If you seem to be holding up alright it just does not occur to them that you too need their support.
If your wife is up to it, when they ask her what they can do to help, she could refer them to you, or at least include in her reply that you too could use their help and suggest that they ask you.
