Dear Queenie,
I am a 14-year-old girl and I got stuck between two friends. We were all good friends 5 years ago but then got split up, and they became better friends.
Last year I became good friends with them again but they seem to be growing apart now. One somewhat bad-talks the other and the other doesn’t really care.
They don’t argue, they talk a little but not as much as they used to. They went through their pre-teens and puberty and everything together and then I come in their teen years and it’s all ruined.
I feel responsible, Queenie. Am I?—Responsible
Dear Responsible,
No, you are not. Relationships change as the years pass, as you yourself have described. It has nothing to do with you. It’s because people, especially children, change as they grow older and their interests, likes and dislikes change also.
It’s nice when childhood friendships last into adulthood, but it’s usually not anyone’s fault when they don’t. It’s just a natural part of growing up.
