Dear Queenie,
My mother-in-law needs a lot of help. She doesn’t know how to drive so she needs someone to take her places and my father-in-law took care of yard work and paying bills and arranging repairs when something needed fixing and all like that, so since he died she needs someone to do all that for her.
She has 3 sons including my husband and they all live nearby, but somehow it’s always me they expect to help her out, as if I didn’t have enough to do caring for my own house and our children.
Queenie, is this fair?—Overworked
Dear Overworked,
Not if you are doing all the work of helping her out, but you should be prepared to pitch in part of the time, especially if you do not have a job outside the home.
In any case, your husband and his brothers (and their wives if they are married too) should work out some kind of arrangement for sharing the job of taking care of their mother.
