Dear Queenie,
My husband is very sweet about helping around the house, like doing dishes, but he does a lousy job of it – he washes them by hand instead of in the dishwasher, doesn’t use soap and hot water and just doesn’t get the dishes clean, so I end up having to wash them over again.
Queenie, I don’t want to insult him. Should I just give up and tell him to let me do the dishes or should I show him how dirty they still are and ask him to do better?—Not-so-spoiled wife
Dear Wife,
Could it be that your husband’s eyesight is not so good and he just cannot see what a poor job he is doing? Or would he notice it if you served him a meal on dishes he alone had washed?
If he cannot see the left-on food, etc., point it out to him. Also you should insist that he at least use hot water and detergent or better yet the dishwasher – not doing so is incredibly unsanitary. If he refuses to cooperate, take over the dishwashing yourself and ask him to do some other chore for you – like drying the dishes, or unloading the dishwasher, and putting the things away.
