Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I got married a couple of months ago. We didn’t tell my Dad because we knew he would object and try to stop the wedding.
Now he has found out and he is mad at us. He even asked me if we got married because I am pregnant, which I am not and I told him so, and he said well, then if I could get married I could take care of myself and not bother him anymore.
Queenie, I love my Dad and I don’t want him out of my life. What can I do?—Newlywed
Dear Newlywed,
Your father is hurt because you did not include him in this very special event in your life. He also may be angry because he does not like your new husband for some reason.
Try writing him a letter telling him you still love him and explaining why you did not tell him when you got married. It may not be enough to satisfy him, but it will be a good first step toward reconciliation.
