Dear Queenie,
My daughter and her fiancé live in St. Maarten and are planning to get married there. We will pay for the wedding and would like to have it here where we live (not St. Maarten) so all our family can attend, but they want it in St. Maarten.
Queenie, what do you think would be best?—Mother of the bride
Dear Mother,
If your daughter and her new husband will be visiting or returning to your home by or before their first anniversary, let them have a small wedding now and plan a big reception where you live when they are there – if it is on or about their first anniversary, it can be an anniversary party rather than a wedding reception.
However, if that will not be the case, let them plan a big wedding in St. Maarten. It is a beautiful place for such festivities and many people will be delighted to attend a destination wedding. Those who do not attend can meet your new son-in-law at a less formal affair at your home sometime later.
