Dear Queenie,
I have been married for 5 years and we have a darling little boy 2 years old. My husband is everything I ever wanted and I know he loves me. He has a good job and he helps me whenever I ask him to and he comes straight home from work and almost never goes out without me, but I still suspect him of cheating on me.
I imagine all sorts of ways he could be doing it, like taking time off from work or sneaking out when I am asleep or when I am busy taking care of our son. I have no good reason for thinking these things, but I make them up in my head and then when I am all upset I accuse him.
He swears he would never do such a thing and says I must be crazy to think that way.
Queenie, why do I do this? Do you think I am crazy?—Jealous wife
Dear Jealous wife,
In this part of the world, where male promiscuity is taken for granted, a wife can be forgiven for occasional fits of suspicion about her husband.
However, you say you have no reason to think your husband is cheating on you, and from your description of your life he has very little opportunity.
I think you may have very low self-esteem coupled with a very vivid imagination. And perhaps you come from a home where such cheating as you imagine was commonplace, so you expect all men to behave the way your father did.
I suggest you go for counselling to learn why you have these feelings and how to control them. It would probably help if your husband would go with you, to learn to understand your jealousy and help you cope with it.
Please try to get yourself under control soon, before your husband decides that if he is going to have to take the blame, he might as well also have the game.
