Dear Queenie,
After my mother died my father got a condolence card from one of my brother’s ex-girlfriends. Now he says they have become good friends and he can really talk to her.
My brother and I don’t like this. We think we should be the ones to comfort him in his time of grief and him to comfort us.
Queenie, are we being unreasonable?—In Mourning
Dear Mourning,
Your father may feel the need to talk to someone who is not also mourning the loss of his wife/your mother and needing the same kind of comforting that he needs. You also might benefit from the comfort you can get from someone who is not in such an emotional state.
Give your father and yourselves time to recover from the pain of your loss.
