His daughter

Dear Queenie,

  My father passed away a few years ago. They always used to make a big celebration for their anniversary and I never know what to do when the date comes up. I don’t want to just ignore it but I don’t feel right telling my mother, “Happy anniversary.”

  Queenie, what do you suggest?—His daughter

Dear Daughter,

  If your mother lives nearby, invite her to dinner on that date. She will know what date it is and you can be guided by what she says or does not say or do. If she lives too far away for you to get together with her, give her a call and, again, be guided by what she says or does not say.