Dear Queenie,
My wife and I have been married for more than 20 years and lately she gets mad – I mean just furious – over the least little thing and then she won’t talk to anybody and if you try to talk to her she gets madder and even walks out of the house to get away from you.
I tried marriage counselling but she blamed everyone else for making her mad and then got mad at the counsellor when he started asking her questions.
I have stayed with her for the kids’ sake but I can’t take much more of this.
Queenie, what should I do?—Harassed husband
Dear Harassed,
Encourage your wife to go to the family doctor, or better yet a gynaecologist, for a complete check-up. If you have been married for more than 20 years it is quite possible that your wife is going through menopause and is suffering from hormone imbalances that are causing violent emotional swings.
And while we are on the subject of marital counselling, let me inform my readers that I have been told that in addition to the references I have given previously, the Mental Health Foundation also offers marriage counselling. However, unfortunately I do not have contact information for them.
