Dear Queenie,
I’m so jealous of my best friend that I’m just about ready to end our friendship. Everything we do she does better than me. She’s better at sports, she gets better grades, she has all the boys chasing after her.
She doesn’t seem to notice all this, but it’s really getting to me.
Queenie, how do I get over it?—Green-eyed monster
Dear Green-eyes,
To begin with, stop comparing yourself to your friend. The way you talk, you only seem to notice the things that make you jealous. Does it also bother you that she is taller (or shorter) than you are, for example?
Next, find activities for yourself in which your friend does not participate. Then there will be no comparison.
Finally, instead of spending so much energy worrying about how much better she is at anything, work on improving your own performance and if it something at which your friend excels, try asking her to help you in doing so. If she really is your friend, she will be happy to pitch in.
