Dear Queenie,
My husband’s mother still treats him like a child. When she visits us she checks his laundry and looks to see what food we have in stock and what I am fixing for dinner. She even makes doctor and dentist appointments for him and even goes with him to them.
Queenie, how do I get her to butt out and let him be a man?—Frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
You do not. That job is up to him.
Have you talked to him about this and told him how much it bothers you? He may be so used to her attention that he just takes it for granted, or he may not be willing to make the effort to detach himself from her apron strings.
Perhaps if he is forced to choose between the two women in his life he will grow some backbone. And if he does not, you have to choose between putting up with Mommy and ditching both of them.
