I am my parents’ youngest child of six. Our oldest brother is 20. He graduated high school but didn’t go on to college and refused to even look for a job. He just sits around all day doing nothing and won’t even help around the house.
My parents both work and my next oldest brother got a job after he graduated from high school and I have a part-time job after school.
Queenie, what can we do to help our oldest brother?—Fed-up sibling
Your brother may just be depressed, but he should be screened for mental and physical problems and possible drug and/or alcohol abuse. He may just need to be forced to support himself and take responsibility for finding his own place to live.
A professional counsellor can help him and all of you learn how to deal with whatever problem(s) he may have and how to motivate him to try to help himself do better.