Dear Queenie,
I used to be good friends with my next-door neighbour, but then she started flirting with my husband. We both told her to stop and she did, but I can’t go back to being friends with her, it just isn’t the same anymore.
The thing is, our children are still friends and play together all the time so I can’t avoid seeing her and she seems to think things are back the way they used to be.
Queenie, am I being mean? If not, how do I get it across to her that things aren’t the same anymore?—Fed up
Dear Fed up,
You are not being mean. And, if necessary, just tell her straight out (but without anger if you can manage it), “Sorry, after what you did we aren’t friends anymore.”
