Dear Queenie,
I got divorced because my (ex-)husband cheated on me. It was terrible to find out what he was doing and the divorce was traumatic too.
My best friend helped me as best she could through it all and I couldn’t have gotten through it without her. The thing is, now she has fallen in love with a married man and they are having an affair.
She and her boyfriend are doing to his wife just what my ex did to me and I think it’s just disgusting, but when I try to talk to her about it she just won’t listen and it’s getting so I just can’t stand being around her, but I can’t bear to think of losing my best friend now too.
Queenie, what to do?—Divorced and friendless
Dear Divorced,
Apparently you need some new friends. Instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself, keep busy and focus on what is good in life.
Take some classes and/or get involved in other outside activities, particularly some that involve helping other people, like volunteering at the hospital or joining a community service group.
And pray that your friend does not meet the kind of disaster you did, if/when her boyfriend’s wife finds out about their affair (if she has not done so already) and he dumps your friend instead of his wife in an attempt to save his marriage.
