Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and we have a child together and are planning on getting married.
A while ago we had some problems and separated for a while. During the time we were separated I dated another guy even though my boyfriend and I were still very much in touch.
Eventually my boyfriend and I worked out our problems and got back together and I stopped seeing the other guy, but now my boyfriend doesn’t trust me that I only want to be with him. He checks up on me all the time and we fight a lot about this.
I have told him I wouldn’t have agreed to get married if I wasn’t going to be faithful to him, and he says he loves me with all his heart, but still he has a problem trusting me and I don’t want to live like this forever.
Queenie, should I marry him and hope things will get better?—Distrusted
Dear Distrusted,
I suggest you make your engagement a long one – long enough to give your fiancé enough time to rebuild his trust in your ability to remain faithful to him. And by the way, just what was he doing while the two of you were separated?
