Dear Queenie,
I was in a relationship with a guy for a couple of years and then we broke up when he moved away.
After a while I met and fell in love with someone else who is just perfect for me and he says he loves me too and we are planning to get married.
Now the first guy has come home and he is together with a new girlfriend. All the time we were together he never told me he loved me but I have heard him say it to the new girl and I can’t help remembering he never said it to me.
Queenie, why are men so cruel?—Devastated
Dear Devastated,
Why do you consider the first guy cruel? He never fell in love with you, the relationship ended and now he has fallen in love with someone who is not you. That is how life goes.
Meanwhile, you have fallen in love with someone who is not him. Stop wasting time and energy obsessing about a relationship that did not work out. Count yourself lucky that you have found a new man who is right for you and put your time and energy into making sure that things work out right with him.
