Dear Queenie,
My ex-boyfriend dumped me a long time ago, but said he wanted to stay friends with me and since then he has called me or texted me to check up on how I am doing and tell me he misses me, but never anything about getting back together.
Queenie, I don’t get it. If he really cares for me why did he break up with me and if he doesn’t care why does he keep in touch?—Confused
Dear Confused,
He may be regretting the breakup and hoping you will give him another chance. On the other hand, he may get an ego boost from thinking about how much you must be missing him, which seems more than a little sadistic to me.
If you are willing to take the gamble, ask him if he would like to get back together. If you are not, stop answering his calls/texts and start looking for a more considerate boyfriend.
