Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I don’t live together but we’ve been going together for almost 20 years. The problem is he doesn’t want to get married and have children, but I’m getting older and if I don’t get pregnant soon it will be too late.
It breaks my heart to think of splitting up with him but there’s another man I know is attracted to me and I am getting to like him more and more.
Queenie, should I take my chances with this other man or stick with what I have?—Confused older woman
Dear Confused,
I am surprised you have stuck it out with your boyfriend so long if he does not have the same goals in life as you. Did you think he would change as he grew older? Not bloody likely, as the British would say. It is long past time you moved on.
However, what makes you think this other man would be any more interested in marriage and children than your present boyfriend? Give him a chance, but make sure you know just what kind of commitment he is willing to make, if any, and if it is not what you want, move on again.
