Dear Queenie,
I’ve been dating a terrific man who was dating several other women too when we started out. After a while I told him I wanted an exclusive relationship and he agreed to stop dating anyone else and he has kept his word on that.
However, recently I told him I want to spend the rest of my life with him and suggested we get married, but he said no, that was not going to happen and if that was the only way we could be together it was over between us.
Queenie, what’s going on here?—Confused girlfriend
Dear Confused,
There could be several reasons for your boyfriend’s refusal to marry you. He may be legally married already, although separated from his wife. Your relationship with him may not have been as exclusive on his part as you think. Or he may not yet (if ever) be ready to make as firm a commitment to you as marriage would be.
Consider yourself lucky that he has been at least that honest with you. Now you will have to decide whether you want to continue with him on his terms.
