Dear Queenie,
I’ve been dating this boy for a while now, And he is very sweet and nice, He always looks for me; sometimes he will call or come by me.
But there is one big problem. He has a girl friend and they have a child together.
Queenie, I know what I’m doing is wrong, but I really really like the boy, and I’m confused. I don’t know if I should let him go or continue the relationship. I’m confused and I like the boy.—Confused girl
Dear Confused girl,
Is this boy living with his other girlfriend and his child? If so, he is clearly spoken for and therefore off limits, as you are obviously well aware. In that case, do not expect me to tell you it is all right to date him; you know very well it is not. Let him go.
If he is not living with his child’s mother, it is probably okay to date him.
However, you might want to ask yourself – and him – if he is contributing in any way to his child’s support and upbringing. If he is not, he shows himself to be irresponsible, to say the least, and you cannot expect any better treatment from him in similar circumstances. In that case, again I would say let him go.
