Dear Queenie,
Our son married a woman of a different faith than ours and his sister has cut him out of her life because of it. We do not share this attitude and we have tried to talk her out of it but she won’t listen.
She doesn’t quarrel with us for staying in contact with him, but she won’t have anything to do with him anymore. Our son, on the other hand, is angry because we keep in touch with his sister and he accuses us of supporting her bigotry.
Queenie, is there any way we can get them to reconcile?—Caught in the middle
Dear Caught,
Not unless your daughter becomes more tolerant of her brother’s wife. However, if (when) your son becomes a father he may come to understand that you do not stop loving your children just because they have ideas with which you do not agree – and that the only chance you have of helping his sister become more tolerant is to stay in touch with her.
