Dear Queenie,
I am a 21-year-old who has had only one boyfriend for the past two years. The beginning of our relationship was great but lately I have been seeing less and less of him.
I pay all my bills on my own and have always been doing that. All I ever asked of him was time and now even that I don’t get anymore unless he notices that I am drifting away and then he tries to mend things, which only lasts for a few weeks.
I have met this new guy whom I am beginning to like and I have decided that I would prefer being with him than my current boyfriend. I will not cheat on my boyfriend, but every time I get an opportunity to tell him that I want to move on, I fear that I might be doing the wrong thing.
Queenie, I need your advice as to whether I should give it one last try or try moving on with someone who would treat me better. Thank you in advance for your advice.—Caught between two
Dear Caught between two,
There is no reason a woman must confine her attention to one man unless she is married or engaged to be married, which I gather you are not. So feel free to see both these men, and do not feel you are cheating on either one of them.
Of course, it is only fair that you let them both know that your relationship with each of them is not exclusive.
I will say it again and again and again: It is not a good idea for a woman to confine herself to an exclusive relationship too young or too quickly. She should keep herself free to date any number of men until she is absolutely certain that she has met the one with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life, and that he feels the same way about her.
