Dear Queenie,
My children don’t like visiting my parents because they say Gramma is always “down” and angry and they don’t like the way she treats Grampa.
Queenie, should I tell her what they said? Do you think it would make her change?—Can’t decide what’s best
Dear Can’t decide,
I would not tell her you are repeating what her grandchildren said. Instead, tell her you can see that she is not happy and suggest (gently!) that professional counselling might help.
