Dear Queenie,
I was married for more than 20 years to a man who was emotionally abusive. After going into therapy I came to understand what he was doing to me and I got a divorce.
Now someone I have known as a friend for many years has asked me out, but I’m not sure if it would be okay to start dating him.
Queenie, what do you say?—Can’t decide
Dear Can’t decide,
I say take things slowly. If you have been unhappy for so long, feeling happy again can be a real “upper”. Talk it over with your therapist and see what he (or she) thinks, and how he/she suggests you handle such a situation.
