Dear Queenie,
I’m getting married next year and after we set the date and started making plans my cousin asked me to change the date so she could be there because she has something else going on on the date we chose. When I told her that was out of the question she got vexed and we had an argument, so I have decided just not to invite her at all.
Now other relatives are saying I’m being selfish and rude and if she isn’t invited they won’t come either.
Queenie, was I wrong or was she?—Bride-to-be
Dear Bride-to-be,
You were both wrong. Your cousin made a totally unreasonable request and should not have gotten vexed when you refused – or were unable – to comply.
However, that is not sufficient reason to dis-invite her to your wedding. Take the high road – send her an invitation and let her know you hope she will be able to attend, but if not, you will understand and hope to see her soon on another occasion.
