Dear Queenie,
What’s wrong with women?
A woman I dated was a real feminist, so I gave her a book about the feminist movement and she got mad at me because it meant I expected something more from her.
Another time when I was in a relationship with a girl for several months I told her how much in love with her I was and she got mad and said she didn’t want to be tied down. I wasn’t asking for anything in return, I just wanted to tell her how I felt.
Later I started dating again and met a wonderful woman I liked so much I sent her flowers where she worked. She got mad too.
Queenie, don’t women believe in romance anymore? Or what is wrong with me?—Bewildered
Dear Bewildered,
I do not think there is anything wrong with you, but apparently your approach to women is “too much too soon.” Real life is not the same as the things you read in books or see on TV or in the movies.
Try taking more time to get to know a woman before “coming on strong” the way you have described. And sending romantic gestures to a woman’s workplace is not usually a good idea. Many women prefer to keep their private lives private where they work.
